To the Friends and Family of Graves Disease Sufferers

Thyroid imbalances of any kind, but most notably Graves’ Disease, have a profound effect on every cell of the body. One of the aspects most noticeable to others is its effects on the brain and emotions. Graves’ Disease can turn even a mild-mannered, loving spouse into someone who is at best often irritable, angry, emotionally unavailable or self-absorbed. Graves’ patients don’t necessarily understand that their feelings originate in out-of-whack brain chemistry, and sometimes blame others for their difficult emotions. These factors contribute to the high divorce rate for people with Graves’ Disease. Sometimes the patient leaves the marriage, believing the spouse is responsible for everything that’s wrong, and other times the spouse can’t take the abusive behavior or lack of normal marital relations, and ends the relationship, not understanding that the problems are a manifestation of an illness.

It is quite impossible for someone who has never experienced the attack of Graves’ Disease on the body and brain to understand how difficult it can be simply trying to function or get through each day. Graves’ Disease is the emotional equivalent of an earthquake, a tornado, and World War III. When the disease is stabilized, many people experience a form of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Relationships are damaged, sometimes permanently, and careers are destroyed. People tend to view the erratic behavior of the Graves’ patient as part of their personality, or in terms of character defects. Many people with Graves’ have had it a long time before it was diagnosed, and a lot of damage may have been done already without anyone having a clue that an illness is responsible.

To complicate matters, “thyroid problems” are viewed as minor by the general public, since for a time before sensitive tests became available, anyone who was a little fat and tired may have been told it was a thyroid condition. Many people mistakenly believe that hyperthyroidism is a free ticket to weight loss, not knowing that it’s a dangerous illness. True thyroid problems are serious and can be fatal when untreated. When treated, the journey to wellness is not necessarily fast or smooth. Since every cell and organ in the body is negatively affected, symptoms develop ranging from extreme fatigue and sleeping and digestive disturbances to nerve, joint, and muscle problems, as well as hair loss and fingernail breakage, not to mention the menstrual cycle, fertility, and sexual function. Miscarriage is the heartbreaking result for many pregnant women. While the body will usually heal in time with proper treatment, permanent heart damage and osteoporosis can occur.

Anxiety and depression are common, and because of the myriad of unexplained physical symptoms, the patient focuses on health issues. Friends and family usually have no idea what’s involved or why the patient is behaving the way he/she is, or how to deal with it. The result is that the thyroid patient may be treated as a hypochondriac or as emotionally “weak”, and berated by others or left alone to deal with life at a time when support from others is needed most of all. The final whammy is when the spouse, one who has promised to love, honor, and cherish for better or worse etc. can’t understand or be supportive either.